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Success!Ezine
Volume 4 Issue 10 -- October 2006
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in
consulting practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL providing professional
development consultation, private practice development and promotion, media
psychology and publishing consultation, as well as cultural competency
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Dr. Webster is author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
Feature Article
Shameless Self-Promotion
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2006
Self-promotion gets a bad rap. People make you feel like you’re being an
egomaniac when you talk about your successes, but for the brave souls who
try anyway, keep it up – you’re doing the right thing. Self-promotion is a
key professional development skill. Others can’t reward you for your
accomplishments or select you to do business with if they don’t know you
and what you’re capable of delivering. Many of us were trained as children
that it is unseemly to toot your own horn, so we wait to be acknowledged
by superiors – secretly hoping that our successes will be recognized while
resentment brews by the day as our achievements are ignored. But it’s
important to realize that others are as busy as you are and, often, it’s
not that they don’t care to know what you’re achieving – they’re just too
preoccupied with other things to notice until you make it onto their radar
screen. So help the process along. Take the risk and let them know.
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Make
Mention of Your Accomplishments |
When you look good, your boss does too so make sure he or she knows the
successes you’ve attained. Bring in the award you received, send a copy of
the article written about you in your professional association magazine, or
while at the water cooler just mention the fact that you were recently
elected Chairperson of the Board of your local community organization. Send
any news to your company’s communications department and let them decide if
and where to run the information. And it’s fine if they decide to do nothing
with it. You’ve done your job by making them aware of you and what you’re
accomplishing. If you are in business for yourself, your customers want to
know that they are working with the best, so keep them informed of the
accolades you receive too. Include mention of this in your next newsletter,
send out press releases, and display your awards proudly in your office.
Yes, all of this feels like bragging – because it is – but how else
is anyone to know why they should be exceptionally pleased and impressed
with you versus another employee in the company or another business
competitor in the community?
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How Do Your Accomplishments Benefit Them? |
While people generally will appreciate your success, they will feel even
better about it if it has some relevance to them. This is usually the
problem with self-promotion when you talk only about things that show how
fast and far you’re moving along while causing others to feel like
they’re being left in the dust. So add mention of how your accomplishment
has some benefit to your department and/or to your manager’s priorities.
Give credit to your team members if it was a group effort. How might your
accomplishment help the company overall – particularly its bottom line? Let
your customers know how obtaining a new credential, certification or award
helps you to offer a new service or provide something better to them.
How does it add to improving the quality of their life in some way?
News of your increasing prosperity will be fine as long as your struggling
customers feel that they will be benefiting in some way too.
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Enjoy Your Success! |
Many people downplay their successes because they’ve been slapped down by
others previously, but don’t give in to this. You deserve to feel proud of
yourself and should take the time to relish your achievements. Take yourself
out to dinner if no one else plans a celebration for you. Let yourself smile
when you look at your award and reflect upon the applause you received. The
attainment of milestones and successes are important and should be treated
with a little pomp and circumstance. Enjoy yourself.
Self-promotion need not be the cause for scorn and rejection. It can be
done tastefully and sensitively in a manner that enables you to tout your
success without feeling like you’re doing something wrong. Remember that as
you fare well, others are likely to do so too, so take the time to tell them
how. There’s no shame in self-promotion when it’s a win-win for all.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in consulting practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You! |
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: I love life in the tropics! I wear comfortable
clothing to business meetings and never thought twice about it until
recently when I got a lot of stares. The only thing I can think of is that I
was wearing sandals when everyone else wore shoes and traditional business
wear. I was in charge of the meeting so I'm sure I carried myself
professionally, but did I go too far?
-- Gotta Be Comfortable

Dear Gotta Be Comfortable: Yes life in the tropics is great, but
business is business. Neither your clients nor your colleagues care
about whether you’re comfortable when you meet with them. They simply want
you to be the professional they expect you to be. Unless you’re in an
industry where casual is the standard, then wearing cruise wear or cooling
your toes in sandals may be too much. Also you run the risk of insulting
your colleagues or demeaning the seriousness of the business to be
conducted. You don't have to be a clone, but at least look around the room
to determine what seems customary. While you might have more latitude in
your line of work than the person whose uniform is a tailored suit, don’t
get too carried away. Does your business image meet the expectations
of your clients or associates? If they’re staring at you and
rolling their eyes, probably the answer is “no”.
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
I don’t allow anyone to put a limit on my dreaming, and I dream big.
Always.
-- Gordon Parks
Success Tip

These Are The Results We Get With
Principle-Centered Power:
Partners and partnerships
A mutual transformation
Synergy
Calculated risks
Increased capacity
Positive, internal control
Self-control
Ethical behavior
Interdependent relationships
Proactivity
Trust
Win/win solutions
Partnership agreements
Deeply satisfying long-term relationships
From the book:
The Power Principle:
Influence With Honor
by Blaine Lee
Simon & Schuster, New York, 1997 |
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