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Success!Ezine
Volume 3 Issue 5 -- May 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
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Feature Article
Lazy Leadership
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2005
It’s not enough to
hold a leadership position – you must live up to the responsibilities of
the job. Employers are relying upon you to chart the course that will
lead to the success of your department, which reflects positively on the
company, but your staff needs your guidance and direction to do this.
Being a leader means having vision and the courage to be at the helm. It
means being a step ahead, often requiring you to be in the office before
others and probably still there wrapping things up after they leave.
Many managers are guilty of lazy leadership – believing that since they
have “made it,” that they’re entitled to enjoy the privileges of the
job, which some interpret as being able to arrive late, do less, and
leave early. If you’re one of these lazy leaders, take a moment to
examine why.
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In Over Your Head? |
Be honest with yourself. Did you make it into this job because of
seniority or by default because of the way promotions are handled at
your company? Many people understandably want the increased salary and
status that comes with being in a leadership position, but may not have
sufficient experience, training, or emotional moxie to really do the
job. This negatively affects your employees, but it also affects you
too. Feelings of anxiety about what new task will confront you that you
can’t handle, feelings of failure, and eventually feelings of dread
about even going to work because, inwardly, you know you’re not doing a
good job. These feelings typically intensify on Sunday night as you
prepare for the workweek ahead. Soon you’ll start calling in on Mondays
to avoid going to work altogether. When you do make it in, it’s likely
you’re latching on to the more insignificant tasks because they’re
manageable and help you feel like you’re accomplishing something.
However, the bulk of your responsibilities and the leadership you should
be providing to your staff are likely going by the wayside. Their
performance declines because they don’t really know what they’re
supposed to be doing, and yours does too as you fail to be able to
handle the breadth of your job and start showing up late, leaving early,
and generally finding all kinds of reasons to spend little time at the
office. Come to terms with the fact that this position may not be for
you and, unless you’re willing to get a lot of coaching and increased
training, it may be time for you to pursue an alternative job that you
can do well and that will restore your ability to feel good about
yourself.
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Burned Out? |
After years of leading the charge, you simply may want to follow for a
while. Let someone else have the headaches. Having the buck stop with
you for all that goes on with a department is a taxing responsibility.
One that takes its toll on everyone after a while. Also, employees today
have multifaceted life stresses that make their way onto the job and
become a challenge. This can be a significant drain for anybody. Leaders
must have high energy and stamina, be emotionally stable themselves, and
sufficiently tough-minded to weather the storms without sinking. Though
it certainly will help you to take a day off here and there to de-stress
and rejuvenate, you may feel the need to move on to a different position
after a while. Some people make the decision to step out of management
and forego leadership responsibilities altogether. Others find that
moving into a less challenging leadership capacity, perhaps with a
smaller span of control, feels more manageable and enables them to do a
better job. Understand that usually there are alternatives and that it’s
better to move on than to allow yourself to drown.
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Oblivious to the Fact that You’re Having
Problems? |
This one can be tough to crack. You may feel you’re doing a wonderful
job and have the most motivated team in the company, only to learn one
day that you are by far considered the worst. How does this happen?
Leaders must have a healthy dose of ego, self-confidence, and
steadfastness to take charge of others and to forge ahead in uncharted
territory. This can go too far, however, and result in denial about
faults and resistance to change. Your staff may be trying hard to get
your attention and to offer recommendations, but if you feel you know it
all or are too absorbed with your own needs you will either ignore them
intentionally or, perhaps worse yet, fail to see all the warning signs
that indicate that your leadership is lacking and that the morale and
performance of your department are low. Since you may not be able to
rely on yourself to pick up on this, put a system in place that will do
it for you. Implement a procedure for obtaining feedback from your staff
about the way things are going in general and about your performance in
particular. Even when you use an anonymous questionnaire, for example,
you must assure them that there will be no repercussions for their
honest assessment of how you’re doing your job and you must truly keep
your word. This is essential, because you’re likely to get poor ratings
from all of them in certain areas. If you can take the heat, try to do
these feedback sessions in person since you probably haven’t been
holding staff meetings anyway, need to improve office communications,
and this will help you to fully understand a broad range of concerns and
force you to sensitize yourself to such issues in the future.
Get Help
Leadership can be lazy and lacking for many reasons. Take a frank look
at your own performance to see if improvements are necessary. Mentoring
can help, but you probably will need more targeted, ongoing coaching to
address the problems you’re experiencing, so get the help you need.
There are executive coaches that have special expertise in specific
industries, and those whose management experience is more broad-based.
If your problems persist and it’s clear that your personality or other
personal issues are the cause of your difficulties, ask your coach to
refer you to a colleague with professional mental health training. This
will help you to manage the stress of these types of jobs better and
unload any emotional baggage that’s getting in your way. You’ll like
yourself better and your staff will too.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster:
I just broke up with my boyfriend and am still in pain. Now a friend wants
me to be in her wedding and I don’t think I can stand it. I mean, I’m happy
for her and all, but I know it will be hard for me to take. Should I say
“no” and just attend as a guest like everybody else?
-- No Wedding Spirit

Dear No Wedding Spirit: Sure, you can do that if you really don’t
consider this person to be your friend. Otherwise, get a grip and accept the
honor of supporting her at this very special point in her life. There are
times when we have to be there for others even when there may be havoc in
our own lives. Certainly you are going through a lot of sadness following
your breakup and you may feel even worse as you witness your friend’s
happiness and mourn the fact that this might have been you if things had
turned out differently with your boyfriend. But it isn’t you, nor is
your friend’s wedding about you, so keep your focus on the main
point: friendships have to be reciprocal and we must give to them as well as
take from them. Probably there were times when your friend didn’t want to
do something for you either, but came through nonetheless. Do the same, and
talk to other friends or get into therapy to deal with your breakup as the
better way to get the emotional relief you’re seeking.
--Dr. Webster

Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
You must genuinely like and respect those who are
performing under your command, for neither the liking nor the respect can be
successfully faked.
-- Benjamin Davis
Success Tip
Aspects of Work-Setting
Design
 | Use visibility as a communications tool. |
 | Use what you’ve got better. |
 | Locate facilities where people want to be. |
 | Build for function, not form or image. |
 | Build for change and expect to change it. |
 | Build in some slack for spontaneity. |
 | Make some great places for informal contact during the workday. |
 | Speed up group development by giving teams a place. |
 | Create a true center for a facility. |
 | Make a big deal out of having food and beverages available in
central spots. |
 | Encourage workplaces that are more like home. |
 | If you have people who travel a lot, create a great home base. |
 | Pay special attention to entrances and exits. |
From the book:
Workplace by Design: Mapping the High-Performance Workscape
by Franklin Becker and Fritz Steele
San Francisco:
Jossey-Bass Publishers
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Clinical Psychology
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