Success!Ezine
Volume 3 Issue 6 -- June 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
Feature Article
Summer Vacation
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2005
Summer is
here and it’s time to take a break. While there’s nothing sacred about
vacationing in the summer, many businesses slow down this time of year so it
tends to be a good time to get away. Vacations are still the best way to
combat stress and it takes a while to unwind if you’re a classic workaholic.
One week is great. Two weeks are even better, since both your body and your
mind need a chance to relax and then to rejuvenate. But, as you look at all
the stacks of work on your desk, it’s very likely that you’ll make excuses
for why you can’t get away. Another year will pass by and you’ll need an
even longer vacation because your stress will be greater. So, stop the
vicious cycle and take the break you need now.
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Get A Grip on Guilt |
It is not
a sin to take time off. You’re not doing anything wrong. Even though
your desk is piled up, your psyche is piled up even higher and you do
yourself and your employer a favor when you tackle your work refreshed
and alert, rather than worn-out and in a fog. People often spend more
time, including overtime, to do the same tasks that they can zip through
with greater ease and clarity once they’ve bounced back from burnout by
taking a rest. So dig out that leave request form and prepare to get out
of there!
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Take A Real Vacation |
Even
though you may not have the money to take an elaborate vacation, make it
a real one anyway. Visiting relatives doesn’t count. While these
trips are fun, they typically involve a lot of work – emotional and
sometimes even physical – that keeps them from being a good de-stressor.
Staying home to clean or to paint doesn’t count either. This is okay to
get things done that you can’t get around to while you’re working, but
does not constitute a vacation. Try to get away if you can so you
can escape the phone calls, bills, and junk mail that have a way of
occupying your attention when you stay home. Even though these same
things will be there when you return, you’ll have greater emotional
energy to deal with them after a break.
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Unplug |
Technology is a great help, but not when you’re supposed to be "off
duty". Leave the laptop home. Turn off the pager. Put the cell phone on
silent mode if you feel compelled to keep it on at all. Try to remember
how the world got along without you before you had all these instant
connections to work and to other people. Unless someone is calling you
from an emergency room, what’s so all-fired important that you have to
interrupt your vacation to deal with it? Surely, whatever the concerns
are, they can wait to get your attention until you return to the office
or get back home. Put your friends and relatives on notice before you
leave but, more importantly, make sure that you overcome
those needs to feel important and in demand that drive you to stay
plugged in while you’re supposed to be away.
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Be A Bum |
Any good
workaholic applies the same principles of goal setting and task
achievement to his or her leisure time. It’s not enough just to
vacation. You probably feel the need to vacation with a purpose and with
noteworthy accomplishment. Many sights must be seen, the best
restaurants must be visited, and special souvenirs must be tracked down
in order for the trip to be considered a success. This is what causes
many people to come back from a vacation feeling more tired than when
they left! Give yourself a break this time. Just bum around. See where
each day takes you rather than plan everything in advance. Loaf in bed.
Lounge by the pool. Stare at the sky. Sure, you may miss some sights.
But view this as a reason to make another visit one day, rather than
wear yourself out when relaxation is what you need right now.
Vacations are
a great antidote for stress and burnout but you must ensure that you get the
rest and rejuvenation you need. High achievers need to learn that it is a
mark of success to recognize when you need to de-stress, so make plans to
get away – even if only for a long weekend – so that you can keep your
winner’s edge.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: I have a great business idea but never get
started because my family and friends keep bogging me down with their
problems. Things are pretty quiet right now, but the minute I get going
they’ll need me again. How do I break free?
-- Budding
Business
Dear Budding Business: Go for it! You’re right – your friends and
family will keep having problems, so you will need to learn how to build
your business in spite of them. Start by setting some limits. How involved
in their problems do you want to get? How involved do you really need
to get? Who else is available to help? Does your rescue of your friends and
relatives conveniently keep you from focusing on your business because
you’re not really ready to start yet?
Get working on your business plan so you can more clearly determine your
readiness to launch this business and to map out how you’re going to work
around your other obligations and distractions. If you remain stuck, get
some counseling so you can shore up your personal life before taking on the
additional stresses of entrepreneurship. You will only sabotage yourself or
allow these distractions to undermine your success once you get the business
going if you don’t.
--Dr. Webster

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Success Motivator
Your world is as big as you make it.
-- Georgia Douglas Johnson
Success Tip
How
Members of
Truly Cohesive Teams Behave

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They trust one another.
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They engage in unfiltered conflict around ideas.
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They commit to decisions and plans of action.
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They hold one another accountable for delivering
against those plans.
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They focus on the achievement of collective
results.
From the book:
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
by Patrick Lencioni
San Francisco:
Jossey-Bass Publishers
2002 |
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