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Volume 6 Issue 7 -- July 2009
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Dr. Webster is author of Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

Feature Article
 

Value Vacation

E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. 
Copyright ©  2009

 Times have been unusually stressful for employees because of the recession. They’re doing more than ever with less staff and resources, and worry constantly that they may be the next to get the ax. Help them de-stress. Insist that they take time off to vacation. But, back your words with actions that demonstrate your commitment to this. Allow them to unplug from the office so they can truly use their vacation time to relax and rejuvenate.

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Leave Employees Alone While They’re Away

It has become common practice to expect employees to call into the office while on vacation or, at the very least, to scan voice mail, email, and text messages in case any “urgent” business has come up. Why is this? Who is so indispensable that they can’t be spared for a week or two? And what does this say about your management effectiveness if the business can’t function unless everyone is always plugged in? Your staff needs the time to rest. They need time just to have fun. And so do you. So show greater regard for the psychological and physical well-being of the people who make your business successful and let them truly vacation. Stop and ask yourself why you’re contacting them before you dial or press “SEND”. What’s the worst that will happen if the matter is not handled until they return or if someone else takes care of it in their absence? If it’s not going to be the end of the world -- leave them alone.

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Give Employees Time to Catch Up When They Return

If you truly want your staff to de-stress and to enjoy their time off, don’t give them mixed messages that suggest that they use their time off to catch up on paperwork, projects, and other tasks that can be taken along on vacation in their briefcase or laptop. Accept that they will need time to do these things when they return, as well as to wade through all the new things that have piled up on their desk since they left. If appropriate for your industry, allow the office to ramp down a bit during the traditionally slow summer season so that everyone can finally get around to those odds and ends that had to be pushed aside because of other priorities. Encourage people to use this time to enjoy their professional journals, to attend association meetings, and engage in other activities that help them grow. These activities spark creativity, encourage best practices, and generally help your company to be experienced as a psychologically healthy place to work, rather than a sweatshop. And this helps your bottom-line.

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Encourage Employees to Identify Tentative Dates for Future Time Off

Set a positive tone about the value of vacation. Make it okay for employees to plan ahead. Encourage them to select tentative dates. And model this behavior by scheduling your own away dates so that they can be announced. Your staff shouldn’t feel guilty about thinking about their next break from work. Knowing that they will be taking time off at some specific date in the future will help spur them on during high stress periods. The buildup of tension can be moderated with the self-reminder that there’s an endpoint on the horizon. Getting these plans in advance will also help you anticipate and manage workplace needs more effectively so that the business can run smooth enough to enable employees to unplug while on vacation.

 Vacation time should be restorative for your staff. Enable them to use the time for self-care and enjoyment. They will appreciate you all the more for doing so, and will reward you many times over through their refreshed workplace performance and commitment.

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

Ask Dr. Webster...

Dear Dr. Webster: I’m a good manager and enjoy my job. But I don’t like leaving the office to attend community meetings and events. This problem shows up on my evaluations so I need to fix this. What can I do?

 -- Most Comfortable in the Office

Dear Most Comfortable in the Office: Let’s be clear: This is not an optional issue. It’s part of your job to attend community meetings and events so, unless your manager agrees to modify your job description or allows you to send a delegate, you must meet this obligation. Period. If you’re introverted, you’ll have to push yourself to adjust to these social demands – not to change your personality, but because this is a necessary work skill in your situation. This doesn’t mean you have to make friends with everyone or become a socialite, but you’ve got to manage the basics. If you find that you simply feel too anxious and can’t do it on your own, contact your EAP to speak with a counselor or contact a therapist on your own. You’ll feel much better just talking about why you dislike this part of your job, and will benefit from help in tackling your discomfort as you start getting out of the office. Some people discover that they are ill-suited for the position and pursue other opportunities within the company or elsewhere. If the problem is as simple as your feeling that you have “more important things to do than to sit in meetings and make small talk at events”, then I suggest you adjust your attitude quickly. Otherwise, you can expect to be free to do as you please because you’re very likely to be unemployed.

  --Dr. Webster

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There is more to life than increasing its speed.

-- Mohandas Gandhi


Success Tip

Coming Back From A Demotion

 Few events are more demoralizing than a demotion. It calls into question your competence and raises fears for your future. And unlike a firing, a demotion forces you to linger on, as the ghost of Christmas past.

 But demotions aren’t terminal events. You can recover if you have the determination and self-awareness to make needed changes—or the wisdom to accept the change you’ve been handed. In truth, a demotion is often nature’s way of telling you you’re in the wrong job. Sometimes people even bring it on themselves as a subconscious way of extricating themselves from a bad spot.

 From the book:

Promoting Yourself: 52 Lessons for Getting to the Top—and Staying There
 

by Hal Lancaster

Simon & Schuster, New York, 2002

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