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Success!Ezine
Volume 6 Issue 7 -- July 2009
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Dr. Webster is author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
Feature Article
Value Vacation
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2009
Times have been unusually stressful for employees because of the
recession. They’re doing more than ever with less staff and resources,
and worry constantly that they may be the next to get the ax. Help them
de-stress. Insist that they take time off to vacation. But, back your
words with actions that demonstrate your commitment to this. Allow them
to unplug from the office so they can truly use their vacation time to
relax and rejuvenate.
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Leave Employees Alone While They’re
Away |
It has become common practice to expect employees to call into the office
while on vacation or, at the very least, to scan voice mail, email, and text
messages in case any “urgent” business has come up. Why is this? Who is so
indispensable that they can’t be spared for a week or two? And what does
this say about your management effectiveness if the business can’t function
unless everyone is always plugged in? Your staff needs the time to rest.
They need time just to have fun. And so do you. So show greater regard for
the psychological and physical well-being of the people who make your
business successful and let them truly vacation. Stop and ask yourself why
you’re contacting them before you dial or press “SEND”. What’s the worst
that will happen if the matter is not handled until they return or if
someone else takes care of it in their absence? If it’s not going to be the
end of the world -- leave them alone.
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Give Employees Time to Catch Up When
They Return |
If you truly want your staff to de-stress and to enjoy their time off, don’t
give them mixed messages that suggest that they use their time off to catch
up on paperwork, projects, and other tasks that can be taken along on
vacation in their briefcase or laptop. Accept that they will need time to do
these things when they return, as well as to wade through all the new things
that have piled up on their desk since they left. If appropriate for your
industry, allow the office to ramp down a bit during the traditionally slow
summer season so that everyone can finally get around to those odds and ends
that had to be pushed aside because of other priorities. Encourage people to
use this time to enjoy their professional journals, to attend association
meetings, and engage in other activities that help them grow. These
activities spark creativity, encourage best practices, and generally help
your company to be experienced as a psychologically healthy place to work,
rather than a sweatshop. And this helps your bottom-line.
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Encourage Employees to Identify
Tentative Dates for Future Time Off |
Set a positive tone about the value of vacation. Make it okay for employees
to plan ahead. Encourage them to select tentative dates. And model this
behavior by scheduling your own away dates so that they can be announced.
Your staff shouldn’t feel guilty about thinking about their next break from
work. Knowing that they will be taking time off at some specific date in the
future will help spur them on during high stress periods. The buildup of
tension can be moderated with the self-reminder that there’s an endpoint on the
horizon. Getting these plans in advance will also help you anticipate and
manage workplace needs more effectively so that the business can run smooth
enough to enable employees to unplug while on vacation.
Vacation time should be restorative for your staff. Enable them to use the
time for self-care and enjoyment. They will appreciate you all the more for
doing so, and will reward you many times over through their refreshed
workplace performance and commitment.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop
It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: I’m a good manager and enjoy my job. But I
don’t like leaving the office to attend community meetings and events. This
problem shows up on my evaluations so I need to fix this. What can I do?
-- Most Comfortable in the Office

Dear Most Comfortable in the Office: Let’s be clear: This is not an
optional issue. It’s part of your job to attend community meetings
and events so, unless your manager agrees to modify your job description or
allows you to send a delegate, you must meet this obligation. Period. If
you’re introverted, you’ll have to push yourself to adjust to these social
demands – not to change your personality, but because this is a necessary
work skill in your situation. This doesn’t mean you have to make friends
with everyone or become a socialite, but you’ve got to manage the basics. If
you find that you simply feel too anxious and can’t do it on your own,
contact your EAP to speak with a counselor or contact a therapist on your
own. You’ll feel much better just talking about why you dislike this part of
your job, and will benefit from help in tackling your discomfort as you
start getting out of the office. Some people discover that they are
ill-suited for the position and pursue other opportunities within the
company or elsewhere. If the problem is as simple as your feeling that you
have “more important things to do than to sit in meetings and make small
talk at events”, then I suggest you adjust your attitude quickly. Otherwise,
you can expect to be free to do as you please because you’re very likely to
be unemployed.
--Dr. Webster
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Success Motivator
There is more to life than increasing its speed.
-- Mohandas Gandhi
Success Tip
Coming Back From A Demotion
Few events are more demoralizing than a demotion. It calls into question
your competence and raises fears for your future. And unlike a firing, a
demotion forces you to linger on, as the ghost of Christmas past.
But demotions aren’t terminal events. You can recover if you have the
determination and self-awareness to make needed changes—or the wisdom to
accept the change you’ve been handed. In truth, a demotion is often nature’s
way of telling you you’re in the wrong job. Sometimes people even bring it
on themselves as a subconscious way of extricating themselves from a bad
spot.
From the book:
Promoting
Yourself: 52 Lessons for Getting to the Top—and Staying There
by Hal Lancaster
Simon & Schuster, New York, 2002 |
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