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Success!Ezine
Volume 6 Issue 1 -- January 2009
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Feature Article
Career Contentment
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2009
The beginning of the New Year is a great time to evaluate your career
and your contentment with it. Many people drift along from job to job
and paycheck to paycheck, finally realizing after many years that they
don’t like the work they’re doing. But others are quite content with
where they are in life yet feel pressure to get a more impressive job,
to be a mover and shaker, to make more money. How about you? Use the
onset of the New Year to assess where you stand so that you don’t waste
time and emotional energy reaching for something you don’t really want.
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How Happy Are You Now? |
Are you pleased with your current career? Do you feel fulfilled by the ins
and outs of your present job? Even if every aspect is not a thrill, do you
feel that the positives outweigh the negatives? It is very likely that you
are feeling a high degree of contentment with where you are, so give
yourself permission to be okay with this.
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What Makes You Feel You Need to Do
Something Else? |
If you are fairly content with your current career, take a close look at why
you feel the need to do something else. Many people feel pressure to keep
moving up but notice that they’re not doing very much to make this ascent a
reality. Often this occurs because the interest isn’t really there. It feels
like something you should do but if you’re really pretty happy where
you are, you aren’t going to do very much about it. Don’t feel compelled to
be hard-driving and super-ambitious if this is not you. There’s no need to
aspire to the top job if you don’t truly want the responsibilities and
challenges that go along with it. It’s important for you to personally
define success for your life, and not to allow others to decide that holding
a lofty job title or making a certain amount of money makes you a success.
More than ever today, quality of life is proving to be more valuable to
sustaining health and happiness. There’s reason to feel very content with
career choices that enable you to fully enjoy work, family, friends, and
recreational interests if you’re fortunate to find yourself in such a
situation.
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There’s Always Tomorrow |
Enjoy your contentment today. You can always seek something else tomorrow.
Contentment isn’t guaranteed forever, nor should it be. Things change.
You’ll change. And you may find that you want to take on more in the future.
But don’t cheat yourself out of the good feelings you’re experiencing now
simply because others around you are on the move. Good for them. But good
for you too.
Career contentment eludes many people. Far more are unhappy and looking to
make a change than are pleased with where they are. Good for you if you’re
one of the lucky ones. Enjoy the New Year without regret!
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist and speaker in consulting
practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop
It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: My boss has gone nuts during the holidays. He
has been strutting around taking credit for everything good that happened
during the year and blaming everything bad on everybody else. He’s an
egomaniac normally anyway but he’s really hard to take now!
-- Ready to Flee the Kingdom
Dear Ready to Flee the Kingdom: Don’t flee just yet. Your boss may be
tough to take but, as you point out, he’s always acted this way – the
holidays are just bringing on a little more show-off-ishness. This happens
when some folks get in “year-in-review” mode and take pride in all the
successes they’re counting up. What they fail to acknowledge, however, is
that they get to shine because of the efforts of their team. Some don’t have
the emotional maturity to share the spotlight with others and this is surely
the cause of much of your frustration. To keep your sanity while you’re
working there, try hard to change your expectations. Don’t look for the
praise – at least not from this boss. You’re not going to get it. Take pride
in the projects you complete, collect the quantitative data that reflects
your accomplishments, and savor whatever positive feedback you may get from
your colleagues. Unfortunately, work settings run by individuals such as
your boss tend to attract others who have similar issues. Therefore, you may
find that other managers hog the limelight too and have trouble
complimenting those who have contributed to their success. Hopefully, you
receive affirmation of your talents and abilities from mentors and those in
your professional association who are more generous in their appreciation of
you. As the holiday season ends, your boss may de-puff a bit, making your
life more tolerable. If you’re still feeling the need to flee once things
are back to “normal”, take your time to identify potential new work settings
that are well-known for valuing the team. Good luck!
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
People who make a living doing something they don’t enjoy wouldn’t even be
happy with a one-day work week.
-- Duke Ellington
Success Tip
Balance
THE AVERAGE AMERICAN lives what I call a “lopsided” life. Simply put, he
typically does too much of this and not enough of that.
Business professionals, for example, as a rule work too much and play too
little, spend too much time sending e-mails and not enough time talking to
each other face-to-face, spend too much time watching television and too
little time reading about topics that interest them, and spend too much time
taking care of others and not enough time taking care of themselves. The
results can be disastrous—burnout at work and/or at home, poor health habits
that manifest themselves in physical or emotional illness, and generalized
displeasure with life—despite the hefty paycheck, the luxury car, and the
house in the “burbs.” Enter the concept of “balance.” That is, doing what
you feel is important to live a full and happy life and more importantly,
one that you are in control of.
From the book:
Balance for Busy People
by Avis Russ, MBA, MS, RN
Russ Consulting, Miami, FL, 2001
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July 2008 |
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June 2008 |
Emotional Control |
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May 2008 |
Optimism |
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April 2008 |
Loss of Stature |
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Overconfidence |
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