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Volume 3 Issue 8 -- August 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

Feature Article
 

Sluggish At Work? Get More Sleep At Home

E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. 
Copyright ©  2005

Getting in trouble at work because you’re too tired to do your job well? How’ve you been sleeping lately?

Many people are sluggish during the day, making all kinds of mistakes, because they aren’t getting enough sleep at night. It’s difficult to concentrate well and to remain even-tempered and on top of things when it’s all you can do to stay awake. Loading up on coffee, soda or other caffeine products doesn’t help and creates another set of problems altogether, so don’t look to this as a solution. Instead, take a close look at your sleep routine to see what can be improved.

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What Time Are You Getting To Bed?

The pace of today’s jobs means that you probably get home late and have a lot to do before you can wind down for the day. The hubbub of getting meals and kids ready for bed, tidying up, preparing for that big presentation the next day at work, can all make you tense and a sure bet to have trouble relaxing and falling asleep. Even singles can find that there’s too much work and not enough day to get everything done before its time for bed. Pare things down to the essentials so that you can get into bed at a reasonable hour and get the sleep you need. Most sleep experts recommend seven to nine hours. Yes, this means skipping some of the fun stuff if you're staying up too late watching your favorite shows or doing other things you enjoy. Pulling a real late-nighter once in a while is no big thing, but your mind and body need rest and you can’t function at your peak by scraping by with too little sleep on a regular basis.

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Any Bedtime Drama?

Conflict is guaranteed to disturb your sleep so nip any bedtime drama in the bud. For couples living together (and even some who don’t) arguments over money are most frequent, with power struggles over whether or not to have sex following close behind. For singles, relationship battles are common, typically involving how much time is nor isn’t being spent together, and all these contentious kinds of discussions need to be resolved or scheduled for another time if bedtime is going to be the peaceful, restorative experience it needs to be. See a therapist if necessary. You will be vulnerable to these kinds of struggles late at night because you’re worn out from the day’s trials and tribulations and get on each other’s nerves more easily. Also, your tolerance for putting up with aggravation lessens as your energy winds down, making it more likely that such arguments will occur. If you’re prone to harbor resentment and to hold grudges, chances are great that you won’t be able to move beyond the argument and your chances of getting a good night’s sleep are shot.

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What Time Are You Waking Up?

Some people aren’t getting enough sleep because they’re waking up early to get a jump on the day. While there’s nothing wrong with doing this from time to time, try not to make a steady habit of it. Determine the amount of time you need to get dressed and fed, and leave other tasks until you get home and have time to take care of them, or until the weekend. Women are particularly guilty of extreme multitasking: trying to do a load of laundry, ironing, vacuuming, or trying to squeeze in similar chores along with everything else they have to do before going to work. This increases the feeling of stress and fatigue before you even leave the house, so imagine how your mind and body feel by the end of the day? Get better organized and put yourself on a schedule so that these chores get done in a more routine manner at more manageable times, rather than cut into your sleep. Sometimes this means making tough choices because you only have so much time available to do it all, but look for alternative ways of doing things rather than assume that getting less sleep is the only way to do it.

Take Steps to Get More Sleep

The carryover of work stress, personal, and relationship struggles, all can keep your sleep routine in an uproar. This then becomes a vicious cycle, because you go into the office tired, irritable, and certainly not able to give your job your best effort. Making lifestyle changes can help tremendously, so take steps to do so today. But also remember that repeatedly being unable to fall asleep, oversleeping, or dozing off during the day can be signs of more serious conditions, so be sure to see your physician for a check up if your sleep disturbance and sluggishness are habitual.

As you become successful, you must prepare for the fact that you will become more visible and what you do will be subject to public scrutiny. The careers of many successful people go up in flames because they refuse to keep their lives in check. When your profile rises, you become a “celebrity” – even if only on your job, in your volunteer organization, or in your local community. This means that what you say and do is of interest to others and they will have their eyes on you even if you’re not paying attention to them. Keep tabs on your own behavior so that you enhance your success and not sabotage it.

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

Ask Dr. Webster...

Dear Dr. Webster: My coworker gets on my nerves. She’s a know-it-all and has made me so annoyed I don’t even speak to her anymore. Now we’ve been put in a workgroup together to get a project done and I know it will look odd that I don’t want anything to do with her. How do I handle the comments that will come up?

-- Nothing to Say

Dear Nothing to Say: Get over this. You’re not on your own time when you’re at work. You're expected to do your job. This includes interacting with teammates to accomplish tasks and to advance the goals of the organization. If you can no longer do this because of your feelings about your coworker, it’s time for you to request a transfer to a new department or look for a new job.

Otherwise, find a way to address the problem you’re having with your coworker. Talk to your mentor or a trusted confident who understands workplace relationships. Your manager is another valuable resource if you can confine your discussion to how to resolve this conflict so you can get the department’s work done and avoid whining about your coworker’s ego and personality. Save this for therapy. Your EAP can help.
 

--Dr. Webster

 

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Success Motivator

Anger is like the blade of a sword.
Very difficult to hold for long without harming oneself.

 -- Charles Johnson

 

  Success Tip

What Makes Workplace Teams Work?
 Researchers and Practitioners Identify
 Six Factors

1.      A clear set of objectives, spelled out unambiguously by management

2.      Metrics allowing team members to assess their performance--and showing the connection between the team’s work and key business indicators

3.      Ongoing training—not a one-shot deal—in communication, group leadership, and other team skills

4.      Decision-making authority over how to reach their goals. But managers may need to start slowly and expand teams’ scope of authority over time

5.      Team-based rewards and evaluation, not individual incentives

6.      An open culture, with easy access to team-specific information and to senior management
 

 From the book:

Teams That Click

 by The Results-Driven Manager Series

Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Press
 2004
 

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November 2004 Put Your Child on the
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August 2004 Impostor Syndrome
July 2004 Fight the Fear of Failure
June 2004 Successful Doesn't Mean Unfaithful
May 2004 Are You A Cell Phone Cad?
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February 2004 Another Valentine's Day Alone?
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