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Success!Ezine
Volume 3 Issue 8 -- August 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
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Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
Feature Article
Sluggish At Work? Get More Sleep At
Home
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2005
Getting in trouble at work because you’re too tired to do your job
well? How’ve you been sleeping lately?
Many people are sluggish during the day, making all kinds of
mistakes, because they aren’t getting enough sleep at night. It’s
difficult to concentrate well and to remain even-tempered and on top
of things when it’s all you can do to stay awake. Loading up on
coffee, soda or other caffeine products doesn’t help and creates
another set of problems altogether, so don’t look to this as a
solution. Instead, take a close look at your sleep routine to see
what can be improved.
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What Time Are You Getting To
Bed? |
The pace of today’s jobs means that you probably get home late and
have a lot to do before you can wind down for the day. The hubbub of
getting meals and kids ready for bed, tidying up, preparing for that
big presentation the next day at work, can all make you tense and a
sure bet to have trouble relaxing and falling asleep. Even singles
can find that there’s too much work and not enough day to get
everything done before its time for bed. Pare things down to the
essentials so that you can get into bed at a reasonable hour and get
the sleep you need. Most sleep experts recommend seven to nine
hours. Yes, this means skipping some of the fun stuff if you're
staying up too late watching your favorite shows or doing other
things you enjoy. Pulling a real late-nighter once in a while is no
big thing, but your mind and body need rest and you can’t function
at your peak by scraping by with too little sleep on a regular
basis.
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Any Bedtime Drama? |
Conflict is guaranteed to disturb your sleep so nip any bedtime
drama in the bud. For couples living together (and even some who
don’t) arguments over money are most frequent, with power struggles
over whether or not to have sex following close behind. For singles,
relationship battles are common, typically involving how much time
is nor isn’t being spent together, and all these contentious kinds
of discussions need to be resolved or scheduled for another time if
bedtime is going to be the peaceful, restorative experience it needs
to be. See a therapist if necessary. You will be vulnerable to these
kinds of struggles late at night because you’re worn out from the
day’s trials and tribulations and get on each other’s nerves more
easily. Also, your tolerance for putting up with aggravation lessens
as your energy winds down, making it more likely that such arguments
will occur. If you’re prone to harbor resentment and to hold
grudges, chances are great that you won’t be able to move beyond the
argument and your chances of getting a good night’s sleep are shot.
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What Time Are You Waking Up? |
Some people aren’t getting enough sleep because they’re waking up
early to get a jump on the day. While there’s nothing wrong with
doing this from time to time, try not to make a steady habit of it.
Determine the amount of time you need to get dressed and fed, and
leave other tasks until you get home and have time to take care of
them, or until the weekend. Women are particularly guilty of extreme
multitasking: trying to do a load of laundry, ironing, vacuuming, or
trying to squeeze in similar chores along with everything else they
have to do before going to work. This increases the feeling of
stress and fatigue before you even leave the house, so imagine how
your mind and body feel by the end of the day? Get better organized
and put yourself on a schedule so that these chores get done in a
more routine manner at more manageable times, rather than cut into
your sleep. Sometimes this means making tough choices because you
only have so much time available to do it all, but look for
alternative ways of doing things rather than assume that getting
less sleep is the only way to do it.
Take Steps to Get More Sleep
The carryover of work stress, personal, and relationship struggles,
all can keep your sleep routine in an uproar. This then becomes a
vicious cycle, because you go into the office tired, irritable, and
certainly not able to give your job your best effort. Making
lifestyle changes can help tremendously, so take steps to do so
today. But also remember that repeatedly being unable to fall
asleep, oversleeping, or dozing off during the day can be signs of
more serious conditions, so be sure to see your physician for a
check up if your sleep disturbance and sluggishness are habitual.
As you become successful, you must prepare for the fact that you will
become more visible and what you do will be subject to public scrutiny.
The careers of many successful people go up in flames because they
refuse to keep their lives in check. When your profile rises, you become
a “celebrity” – even if only on your job, in your volunteer
organization, or in your local community. This means that what you say
and do is of interest to others and they will have their eyes on you
even if you’re not paying attention to them. Keep tabs on your
own behavior so that you enhance your success and not sabotage it.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: My coworker gets on my nerves. She’s a
know-it-all and has made me so annoyed I don’t even speak to her anymore.
Now we’ve been put in a workgroup together to get a project done and I know
it will look odd that I don’t want anything to do with her. How do I handle
the comments that will come up?
-- Nothing to Say

Dear Nothing to Say: Get over this. You’re not
on your own time when you’re at work. You're expected to do your job. This
includes interacting with teammates to accomplish tasks and to advance the
goals of the organization. If you can no longer do this because of your
feelings about your coworker, it’s time for you to request a transfer to a
new department or look for a new job.

Otherwise, find a way to address the
problem you’re having with your coworker. Talk to your mentor or a trusted
confident who understands workplace relationships. Your manager is another
valuable resource if you can confine your discussion to how to resolve this
conflict so you can get the department’s work done and avoid whining about
your coworker’s ego and personality. Save this for therapy. Your EAP can
help.
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
Anger is like the blade of a sword.
Very difficult to hold for long without harming oneself.
-- Charles Johnson
Success Tip
What Makes Workplace
Teams Work?
Researchers
and Practitioners Identify
Six Factors
1. A
clear set of objectives, spelled out unambiguously by management
2.
Metrics allowing team members to assess their performance--and showing
the connection between the team’s work and key business indicators
3.
Ongoing training—not a one-shot deal—in communication, group leadership,
and other team skills
4.
Decision-making authority over how to reach their goals. But managers
may need to start slowly and expand teams’ scope of authority over time
5.
Team-based rewards and evaluation, not individual incentives
6. An
open culture, with easy access to team-specific information and to
senior management
From the book:
Teams That Click
by The Results-Driven Manager Series
Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Press
2004
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June 2005 |
Summer Vacation |
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May 2005 |
Lazy Leadership |
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April 2005 |
Are You A Pushover? |
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March 2005 |
Working Hard? or Hardly Working? |
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February 2005 |
Business Networking |
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January 2005 |
Make Your Success A Priority
This
New Year |
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December 2004 |
Holiday Office Parties |
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November 2004 |
Put Your Child on the
Fast Track for Success |
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October 2004 |
Crabs in the Barrel - Part II
How to Move Up When People Try to Keep You Down |
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September
2004 |
Crabs in the Barrel - Part I
Do You Try to Keep Others Down? |
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August 2004 |
Impostor Syndrome |
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July
2004 |
Fight the Fear of Failure |
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June 2004 |
Successful Doesn't Mean
Unfaithful |
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May
2004 |
Are You A Cell Phone Cad? |
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April 2004 |
Casual Fridays Sinking Your
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March 2004 |
Angry At Work? Get A Grip! |
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February 2004 |
Another Valentine's Day Alone?
Organize Some Fun! |
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January 2004 |
Successful New Year's Resolutions |
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Clinical Psychology
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