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Success!Ezine
Volume 7 Issue 4 -- April 2010
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Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
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Feature Article
Returning to Work
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2010
After months -- if not years -- of unemployment because of the
recession, it’s great to land a job and to get back to work, right? Cash
will be coming in again soon and you’ll have a restored sense of
“identity” now that you have a job title again. But some people
experience difficulty making this transition after a long period of
unemployment, so start getting ready for your return to work today.
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Say Goodbye to Your Free
Time |
As
depressing as being out of work is, you probably have enjoyed getting more
rest, eating better, working out more, spending time with your kids,
rediscovering hobbies, and
engaging in other activities that you never have time for because of long
work hours. You’ll miss this time. It will help to begin talking about this
with your family and friends so that you, as well as they, can get used to
the fact that you won’t be around as much as you are now.
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Start Your New Routine Now |
The longer
you’ve been out of work, the sooner you need to get on the schedule you will
be on once you start your new job. Set your alarm, get up at the new time,
and start following the ritual of showering, shaving or putting on your
makeup, and getting dressed like you’ll be doing in a few weeks. Leave the
house to do something everyday too. Don’t feel like it? You won’t feel like
it in a few weeks either, so get used to it now. And move those activities
that you now enjoy during the workday to a new time slot because your business
day will be full. Which of these can be done before work? After work? Which will
have to wait until weekends? Start shifting these enjoyments around now.
Once you return to work, you’ll be overwhelmed quickly with all your new
responsibilities and there will be little time to ponder these
issues.
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Stay Alert for New
Opportunities |
Celebrate
your new job, but keep an eye out for opportunities that might better
accommodate the activities you enjoyed while you were out of work. As the
economy improves, you may learn of jobs that begin and end earlier in the
day, enabling you time to spend with your kids like you did while
unemployed. Of course it won’t be exactly the same, but you may find flex
jobs, telecommuting positions, or other alternatives that work better for
you. Similarly, if you discovered while unemployed that you prefer a
healthier lifestyle, for example, you might want to look into jobs or
entrepreneurial pursuits that
embrace wellness. The objective is not to abandon your new job on a whim,
especially in these uncertain times, but to take your interests into greater
consideration and strategically research and
explore other options as new opportunities become more plentiful again. This
may be way off in the future but, now that you've had time off to learn more
about yourself and the things that make you feel healthier and happier, there’s no harm in
considering changes that might allow you to enjoy greater career
satisfaction and work-life balance in the future.
By all means
enjoy your new job! You deserve to feel good about returning to work. But
your transition will be smoother if you get on your new routine now and
prepare yourself emotionally for some of the things you’ll miss once your
time is no longer your own.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop
It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster:
I owe a lot of my
success to acts of kindness by people who know me. They’re not mentors or
anything and I don’t see most of them very often. I don’t know why they
helped me. I’ve done very well but they never ask for anything. How do I
thank them?
-- Successful
and Very Grateful

Dear
Successful and Very Grateful: It’s wonderful that you appreciate what
others have done for you and that you want to thank them in some way.
They’re clearly not looking for anything from you, and sometimes people
cross our paths who genuinely take pleasure simply from helping us to get
ahead. But use your imagination and the savvy that got you this far. What
can you do to propel their success now that you have the advantage
and are in the position to do so. They’re not asking you for that, but
wouldn’t they be thrilled about it? You have the power to make it happen, so
– just do it!
-- Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
You may not be responsible for getting
knocked down, but you’re certainly responsible for getting back up.
-- Jesse Jackson

Success Tip
How to Cultivate
a
VIP Relationship
VIPs require
extra TLC in the same way that patrons of five-star restaurants expect
exceptional service. Once you have been successfully introduced to a VIP, or
if you are reinvigorating a neglected relationship, then the real work
begins…
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Read everything that they have written. |
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Read everything that has been written about them. |
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Read everything that they recommend you should read. |
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Check their Web site regularly. |
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Sign up for their newsletter. |
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Stay in touch regularly by phone and e-mail. |
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If you meet with them over a meal, always pick up the
tab. |
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Don’t ask for anything until you’ve built a really solid
connection. |
From the book:
Good in a Room
by Stephanie Palmer
Currency Books, New York,
2008
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