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Volume 7 Issue 4 -- April 2010
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Feature Article
 

Returning to Work
 

E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. 
Copyright ©  2010

 
After months -- if not years -- of unemployment because of the recession, it’s great to land a job and to get back to work, right? Cash will be coming in again soon and you’ll have a restored sense of “identity” now that you have a job title again. But some people experience difficulty making this transition after a long period of unemployment, so start getting ready for your return to work today.

 

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Say Goodbye to Your Free Time

 

As depressing as being out of work is, you probably have enjoyed getting more rest, eating better, working out more, spending time with your kids, rediscovering hobbies, and engaging in other activities that you never have time for because of long work hours. You’ll miss this time. It will help to begin talking about this with your family and friends so that you, as well as they, can get used to the fact that you won’t be around as much as you are now.

 

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Start Your New Routine Now

 

The longer you’ve been out of work, the sooner you need to get on the schedule you will be on once you start your new job. Set your alarm, get up at the new time, and start following the ritual of showering, shaving or putting on your makeup, and getting dressed like you’ll be doing in a few weeks. Leave the house to do something everyday too. Don’t feel like it? You won’t feel like it in a few weeks either, so get used to it now. And move those activities that you now enjoy during the workday to a new time slot because your business day will be full.  Which of these can be done before work? After work? Which will have to wait until weekends? Start shifting these enjoyments around now. Once you return to work, you’ll be overwhelmed quickly with all your new responsibilities and there will be little time to ponder these issues.

 

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Stay Alert for New Opportunities

 

Celebrate your new job, but keep an eye out for opportunities that might better accommodate the activities you enjoyed while you were out of work. As the economy improves, you may learn of jobs that begin and end earlier in the day, enabling you time to spend with your kids like you did while unemployed. Of course it won’t be exactly the same, but you may find flex jobs, telecommuting positions, or other alternatives that work better for you. Similarly, if you discovered while unemployed that you prefer a healthier lifestyle, for example, you might want to look into jobs or entrepreneurial pursuits that embrace wellness. The objective is not to abandon your new job on a whim, especially in these uncertain times, but to take your interests into greater consideration and strategically research and explore other options as new opportunities become more plentiful again. This may be way off in the future but, now that you've had time off to learn more about yourself and the things that make you feel healthier and happier, there’s no harm in considering changes that might allow you to enjoy greater career satisfaction and work-life balance in the future.

 

By all means enjoy your new job! You deserve to feel good about returning to work. But your transition will be smoother if you get on your new routine now and prepare yourself emotionally for some of the things you’ll miss once your time is no longer your own. 

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

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I owe a lot of my success to acts of kindness by people who know me. They’re not mentors or anything and I don’t see most of them very often. I don’t know why they helped me. I’ve done very well but they never ask for anything. How do I thank them?

 

-- Successful and Very Grateful

 

 

 

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 -- Jesse Jackson
 


 Success Tip

How to Cultivate a
VIP Relationship

 VIPs require extra TLC in the same way that patrons of five-star restaurants expect exceptional service. Once you have been successfully introduced to a VIP, or if you are reinvigorating a neglected relationship, then the real work begins…

 

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Read everything that they have written.

 

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Read everything that has been written about them.

 

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Read everything that they recommend you should read.

 

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Check their Web site regularly.

 

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Sign up for their newsletter.

 

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Stay in touch regularly by phone and e-mail.

 

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If you meet with them over a meal, always pick up the tab.

 

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Don’t ask for anything until you’ve built a really solid connection.

    From the book:

Good in a Room

 

by Stephanie Palmer

Currency Books, New York, 2008

 

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