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Success!Ezine
Volume 2 Issue 4 -- April 2004
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
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Feature Article
Casual Fridays Sinking
Your Success?
Dr. E. Carol Webster
Copyright © 2004
Casual Fridays are not for everyone. In fact,
they’re probably not great for a lot of people. While the idea of
allowing employees to relax dress codes one day a week so they can work
in more comfortable attire is fine, some people have interpreted this to
mean “ready for the weekend” and have diminished the image of their
companies as well as their own. This has caused some employers to
rethink the practice, and many individuals need to do so as well.
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Work Is Work |
Whether we like it or
not, work is work. There is a “uniform” associated with jobs and, though
some are more formal and fussy than others, your appearance should make
it perfectly clear when you’re “on duty” rather than “at play”. In some
offices, particularly on Casual Fridays, it’s hard to tell the
difference. If your job requires you to represent highbrow goods and/or
services, your efforts to communicate this elite stature and instill
confidence in you and your company are undermined if you’re doing this
in jeans and flip flops. While you may generate your most brilliant
thoughts and are at your creative best when your toes are catching a
breeze, your customers probably won’t get to the point of learning about
your great ideas because they will be turned off by your lack of
professional presentation. People expect you to be at work. They expect
you to look and act a certain way in a business setting and even though
your company allows you to skip the suiting up requirement one day a
week, remember that you are on the job and not readying for a trip to
the beach. Besides, as those who run businesses at home will tell you,
though they may truly believe that they are at their best when they are
relaxed, they find that they are more productive when they shed the
pajamas and put on some type of “uniform” that signals that they are now
“at work”.
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Determine
The Dress Code |
Rather than proceed in
a manner that undermines your success, find out what the dress code is
for Casual Fridays. Many people take their lead from management and this
is reasonable, but management may not have their act together either
and, thus, asking the question will invite everyone to take a look at
the policy and practice in light of the company’s positioning to see
what can be improved. The guidelines should be clearly defined so that
the average person easily understands what type of clothing is expected
and what is considered unacceptable to wear on these days. And, by all
means, get input from some customers or those outside your immediate
department. How did they expect employees to dress? What do they think
about the way they do dress? Is this the image the company
intends to project?
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Look
At Yourself In The Mirror |
Once you are clear
about what’s considered acceptable casual dress at the office, does this
type of clothing look good on you? While most people make at
least some minimal effort to check their appearance before leaving home
for work, make it a point to look at yourself in a mirror once you get
to the office. Catch a glimpse as you pass the reflective wall in front
of the elevator or as you assemble for a meeting in the conference room.
Better yet, play back any videotaped gathering at your office so that
you can see how you’re coming across during these dress down days.
Shorts and sneakers may be allowed, but you don’t have to wear them.
Same with jeans when they are allowed at work -- especially those that
haven’t seen an iron in years. There is no law that says you must wear
denim in order to embrace the spirit of Casual Fridays, or that the
crinkled shirt look is for you. Permitted or not, all styles are not
flattering on all people and you should stick with what makes you look
your best.
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What
Image Should You Be Projecting? |
Though
you may present a satisfactory impression of yourself when wearing a polo shirt and khakis like everyone else on
Casual Friday, what image should you be projecting? What is your
role – within the company? – in the eyes of your staff and colleagues? –
in the eyes of your customers? Your image may need to be distinguished
from others or it simply may be different and require you to project
greater professional “packaging” at all times. Yes, this is burdensome
and no, it’s not fair. But, so what? It’s a part of your reality and is
likely to be a critical component to your success. Image is a large part
of what drives sales and consumer satisfaction in our society. If you
are asking your customer to pay top dollar, or are conducting business
with them as an agent of some “official” or “authoritative” entity, for
example, you will be expected to embody the characteristics associated
with that stature and your image should reflect the associated symbolism
accordingly. Even those representing industries more typically thought
of as “laid back” must ensure that those in the front office and those
identified as “in charge” look the part and provide the business with
the professional image it requires to instill consumer confidence.
People like to feel that they have made a correct choice and that their
affiliation with you enhances their image and feelings of importance,
not detracts from it. Interestingly, this applies to your staff and
others above and below you as well. You may find that your authority is
curiously less effective on some dress down days and your other
interactions may be diminished as well. Your input and opinions can rise
and fall with the way you appear to others, so dress in a manner that is
in keeping with your level of power and influence. Your appearance
should make you feel proud, confident, and ready to go if invited out by
your boss or if you are called to meet with your most important client,
for example. At the very least, stash a suit or blazer, business shoes,
and some “dress up” accessories in your office closet so that, if caught
off guard, you can make a quick “uniform” change and be ready for
action.
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Get
Personal Feedback |
So how are you doing in
projecting success on dress down days? Invite feedback. Ask your spouse,
partner, or a good friend to stop by the office to check you out. What’s
their honest impression? If your appearance looks too informal, too
sloppy, too provocative, too unsophisticated or otherwise negative in
the context of your business setting and job – do something about this.
Stop sinking your success because of Casual Fridays. Polish your image
and get professional coaching if necessary so you can learn how to look
like a winner everyday.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask
Dr. Webster....
Dear Dr. Webster:
My teenager will be graduating and is
looking forward to college. But all he talks about is the fun he’s going to
have. We’re all high achievers in our family and have tried to give him lots
of freedom and space to think for himself, but we have no idea what’s he’s
going to study or whether he will take his studies seriously. What can we
do?
-- Worried Mom
Dear Worried Mom:
You may be giving your son too much
space. He may look and act grown-up but he’s not there yet, so don’t abandon
your parental controls too quickly. Your son may need more structure and
supervision than you realize and you’ll do well to start talking with him in
greater detail so that you understand his needs better. For example, it’s
essential that you have a better grasp of his interests, academic strengths,
and what he intends to study and why he is choosing one college over another
to attend. This doesn’t mean that he must be pinned down to an exact major
or not allowed to change his mind as he moves along, but there should be
some type of overarching plan that is determining why and how decisions are
being made. Get help from his school Guidance Counselor if you haven’t
already. Schedule a consultation with a Counseling or School Psychologist if
he needs more in-depth career evaluation or if you need help in determining
how best to help him. You should be actively involved in reviewing materials
and visiting the campuses with him if your circumstances will allow and
helping him to think through all the decisions he must make – particularly
if you already observe him to be floundering and to be ill-directed as to
why he even is going to college. Of course, it’s great that he’s looking
forward to the “fun” aspects of leaving home to go to school and that’s
fine. But your son is giving you indications that he needs your parental
direction, so shift your focus to giving more – not less – attention,
opinion, and guidance until he is underway and you see that he is handling
the challenges and responsibilities of his new endeavor satisfactorily.
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
Ask Dr. Webster
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Success
Motivator
It's better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have
one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.
-- Whitney Young

Success Tip
What You Can Do To
Guarantee Failure In Changing Your Subordinates' Behavior
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Don't get the subordinate involved, just talk at
him or her.
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Don't give specific feedback; talk in generalities.
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Concentrate on attitude, rather than behavior.
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Assume the subordinate understands that a problem exists.
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Assume the subordinate knows what has to be done to solve
the problem.
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Don't follow up to insure that the agreed-upon action has
been taken by the subordinate.
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Don't acknowledge or praise the subordinate when he or
she corrects the problem.
From the book:
Coaching For Improved
Work Performance
by Ferdinand Fournies
Van Nostrand Reinhold Company, New York, 1978
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