The New Year is a great time to clean house. As you sweep out the last remains of your holiday festivities, clean out your network too. You probably have too many naysayers it in who depress your mood and can undermine your success. This is a great time to bid them farewell.
Identify the Downers
It doesn’t take much to spot the naysayers in your network. They’re the ones who can’t wait to dash your dreams and to assure you that you can’t do whatever it is you want to try. Some are more subtle in their lack of support. When you say you want to talk about something, they don’t call you back or spend the conversation talking about themselves. Move these folks to your “B” list, if not off the list altogether.
Counter Negative Thinking
When you’ve been surrounded by doomsters, it’s very easy to begin thinking like them – even when they’re no longer around. Their pessimism rings in your ears and incites self-defeatist thoughts and feelings that can cause you to undermine yourself and your success. Push back on these negative thoughts. Tell yourself to “Stop!” Then break to do something else so you can clear your head. And keep your mood as positive as you can. It’s impossible to soar if you’re feeling deflated.
Keep Strengthening Your Support Network
You need an uplifting “Fan Club,” so spend your time with those who cheer you on and help you identify “Can Do” solutions to overcome the problems you encounter as you strive to attain your goals. They’re a key part of your Success Entourage, and are not just “Yes” men and women. They offer critical feedback as needed, but are not secretly competing with you so these “Fans” offer feedback that is helpful ― not hindering.
Naysayers are downers and a drag on your dreams. Tolerate them in small doses if you must, but once it becomes clear that all you’ll get from them is negativity, it’s time to let them go.
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