DR. E. CAROL WEBSTER’S
LIVE EACH DAY FULLY THIS NEW YEAR
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Original Copyright © 2013
The start of a New Year is a great time to think about the future and to plan ahead. It’s a time for making resolutions and reviewing progress towards those set in the past. But take time to reflect upon your life as it is and make a pledge to appreciate the things that bring you joy today.
In order to appreciate the good things in your life, you have to recognize them. It’s tough to do this when you’re on the run all the time. Slow down. Fight the feeling that you’re running out of time in life. None of us has any idea of what time we have, but what you can control is how you’re spending it now. Don’t become preoccupied with getting to “success” quickly. Success is a process and, ironically, you’re more likely to move forward when you learn how to step back and “smell the roses” today.
Sure, you feel you must take care of a lot of tasks simultaneously because employers are squeezing you for every minute these days, but give your full attention to the things that really matter to you. Rather than talking on the phone with your friend while you pound out a memo at the office, make the call when you can truly listen and enjoy the conversation. Instead of texting during dinner, enjoy your meal and the company of those around you. Take a rest break –- if only for a few minutes each day –- so that you can cue in on things that make you smile and etch them in your psyche. In addition to giving you a boost, this will reduce stress. Set a timer or calendar alert to prod you. At the very least, this will encourage you to stop for a moment to see how many tasks you’re working on at the same time. When you have too many things going on at once, it’s impossible to derive much pleasure from any of them.
Rediscover Joy in Life
After years of plodding along in search of tomorrow, you probably have let a lot of good times pass by with the promise that you’ll enjoy them some day – like when you’ve accomplished all you’ve set out to do. Unfortunately, many people don’t make it to that day. More importantly, everyday moments of love and laughter go a long way to nurturing your soul and fortifying you for challenges ahead. When you finally do stop to take a breath, you’re likely to find that you can’t even identify the people, places, and things in your life that lift your spirits and bring you joy. Rediscover them. Or, if you’ve been a workaholic since you were a kid, discover them for the first time.
Make the New Year a time to shift your focus from living for tomorrow to living more fully today. Rest on your laurels a bit. You’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that savoring where you are in life now will sweeten your success tomorrow.
Read more about New Year Success:
Make Your Success A Priority This New Year
New Year’s Blues
Pursue Your Passion This New Year
Successful New Year’s Resolutions
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL.
She is author of the book for those dealing with the stress of success ―
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There,
The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! ―
the book to help you overcome fears that may be holding you back in your life and career
The Private Practice of Clinical Psychology in: Voices of Historical & Contemporary Black American Pioneers
To contact Dr. Webster visit online at http://drcarolwebster.com or call 954.797.9766.
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychology Consulting
Mailing Address: 7027 West Broward Boulevard, #262 Fort Lauderdale, FL 33317
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