DR. E. CAROL WEBSTER’S
SHOWING GRATITUDE IS GOOD FOR YOU
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Original Copyright © 2012
The holidays are approaching and hopefully stir thoughts of fun times with loved ones and friends. It’s also a good time to reflect upon those things you appreciate about them and include ways to communicate this in your upcoming festivities. But you will feel better and, believe it or not, fare better in life if this is your routine throughout the year. So take time to express gratitude towards others as a matter of habit.
Don’t ignore your home training. Write thank you notes to those who help you along the way. And make those phone calls too. People deserve to be thanked for their acts of kindness, so make a point to step up your game and show appreciation when it’s due. Not doing so is tacky, but also robs you of the opportunity to feel good too. You get an emotional benefit when you allow yourself to be grateful for the positive things going on in your life instead of only dwelling on negativity.
But don’t just dash off a quick note or leave a hurried “thank you” on voice mail. Make a show of your appreciation. Visit with your loved one and read your note to them. Sing it to them if you’re talented — or even if you’re not! Walk down the hall to compliment your staff for their hard work. But do it with flair. They’ll get a kick out of it and you’ll feel a boost of positivity too.
Highlight the Good Things
In addition to saying and showing thanks, set aside some time to take stock of all that is going well in your life. Yes, this sounds corny, but doing so is highly effective in giving less emotional space to those worrisome thoughts and feelings that cause you stress and unhappiness. Jot down the things you’re thankful for in a journal at the end of the day. Or use a cool app and note them in your Smartphone. In addition to registering these positives in your head, you will etch them in your soul too. You’ll begin to notice that you feel happier and this will influence how you view life and deal with things in the future.
It’s important to be mindful of the positive things that happen in your life and to show gratitude for them. Slow down your pace to take note of them. While bringing happiness to others by saying thanks, you’ll bring happiness to yourself too!
Read more about Positivity:
Praise Propels Performance
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL.
She is author of the book for those dealing with the stress of success ―
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There,
The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! ―
the book to help you overcome fears that may be holding you back in your life and career
The Private Practice of Clinical Psychology in: Voices of Historical & Contemporary Black American Pioneers
To contact Dr. Webster visit online at http://drcarolwebster.com or call 954.797.9766.
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychology Consulting
Mailing Address: 7027 West Broward Boulevard, #262 Fort Lauderdale, FL 33317
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