DR. E. CAROL WEBSTER’S
POWER OF DADS
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Original Copyright © 2011
Dads have power. Traditionally valued in our society for their stalwart financial support of their families, it’s easy to overlook the fact that you have great emotional influence on the lives of your spouse, children and extended family too. Use your power to enrich the lives of those around you.
Make Time for Family
Your career is important – no question about this. But your family is important too, so make time to share yourself, your insights and thoughts with them. Many guys, especially those who are younger, try hard to make it home to have dinner with their kids or to drive them to afterschool events. Good for you. But your kids complain that you’re checking email at the dinner table or talking on your cell phone – so your body is present, but you are not. In this 24/7 work cycle, it’s easy to feel like the world will come to an end if you don’t respond to every work demand immediately, but what greater priority is there than the care and well-being of your kids? Give them the time and attention they need. You can always get back to the work stuff once you’ve tucked them into bed.
Make Time for Your Relationship
While your mate is emotionally self-sufficient, they need you too. Don’t neglect them. Your wisdom, humor, and affection does a lot to sustain them, and they miss your impact when you’re physically or emotionally absent. It may sound corny, but “date nights” and “snuggle mornings” are valued because you give your undivided attention during these times and are loved and cherished for your support, soothing reassurance, and knack for bottom-line problem-solving. And this time is restorative for you too!
Take Time for Yourself
Having said all the above about the power of your influence upon others, it’s important to take time for yourself. You must regroup and refuel, so be insistent upon your need for time to yourself. This may be used to exercise, count the clouds in the sky, or hang out with your buddies, but it needs to be time without others nipping at your heels or clinging to your knee caps. This will revitalize your physical and emotional reserves, so don’t feel guilty about it – it’s a must. Guard this time vigorously.
Dads have great power and you deserve to be celebrated for all you do. Continue to work hard in building or managing your career, but enrich the lives of those you love by sharing yourself with them.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL.
She is author of the book for those dealing with the stress of success ―
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There,
The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! ―
the book to help you overcome fears that may be holding you back in your life and career
The Private Practice of Clinical Psychology in: Voices of Historical & Contemporary Black American Pioneers
To contact Dr. Webster visit online at http://drcarolwebster.com or call 954.797.9766.
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychology Consulting
Mailing Address: 7027 West Broward Boulevard, #262 Fort Lauderdale, FL 33317
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