DR. E. CAROL WEBSTER’S
HELPLESSNESS HINDERS SUCCESS
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Original Copyright © 2009
Many people fail to get ahead in life because helplessness hinders them. They’re easily overwhelmed by challenges and setbacks, and give up quickly because they believe they’re powerless to change their situation. But this is learned behavior. So it’s never too late to learn how to overcome helpless thinking and savor success instead.
Accept That You Have Power
Even if you’ve heard your whole life that good things only happen to you by chance, make it your business to challenge this notion. Look back at the times when you’ve done well and search your memory for ways you helped bring that success about. It’s guaranteed that you’ll find some evidence. You do have personal power and must remind yourself of this. If you’re prone to say “it’s just luck” you’ll need to work harder than others to learn to believe in your ability to make things happen in your life.
Those who are prone to helplessness tend to be sorely lacking in hope. And, of course, this only makes matters worse – confirming that things are never going to get better so you might as well give up. Reject this pessimism. Those who view life’s challenges as temporary obstacles bounce back quicker and better. So, even if you don’t really believe it now, train your inner voice to assure you that your bad times are temporary and that happier days are ahead.
As with most things, it’s not enough just to change your thinking. You have to change your behavior too. If you’re going through some tough times right now, don’t sit back waiting for fate to take a hand. Take action. Chipping away at the problem – even in small ways — beats doing nothing every time. And once you get going, you’re going to feel better about yourself, which builds your confidence further and leads to better decisions and more effective action.
Helplessness keeps you mired in inaction and daunted by the disappointments that life brings your way. Use your personal power to pull out of this pattern and take pride in the success that you make happen in spite of the downtimes along the way.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL.
She is author of the book for those dealing with the stress of success ―
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There,
The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! ―
the book to help you overcome fears that may be holding you back in your life and career
The Private Practice of Clinical Psychology in: Voices of Historical & Contemporary Black American Pioneers
To contact Dr. Webster visit online at http://drcarolwebster.com or call 954.797.9766.
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychology Consulting
Mailing Address: 7027 West Broward Boulevard, #262 Fort Lauderdale, FL 33317
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